1. When art imitates life. And vice versa.
2. Looking for the light. In all the ways. And all the places.
3. Writing letters and speaking out. Encouraging others to do so as well. Reading the text of a friend who grew up in this town. Standing up for what is right. And remembering the option to opt out, if need be.
4. Trips to the ocean, even when it's 11 degrees. Living in wool socks.
5. Reading The Hate U Give. This quote “That’s the problem. We let people say stuff, and they say it so much that it becomes okay to them and normal for us. What’s the point of having a voice if you’re gonna be silent in those moments you shouldn’t be?” - Angie Thomas
6. Knowing that the quote above is not that simple.
7. Bourbon soaked chocolate cherries.
8. Remembering. Remembering. Remembering that we are not all having the same experience.
"We are not all having the same experience. Let's begin there.
Your experience is your own. As is mine. And though we can sometimes connect and find commonality, knowing great meaning in the presence of experiences intertwining, we do a violence to others and ourselves by holding and naming our own experience as universal truth. When we do so particularly around the landscape of affirmations and seeking silver linings, we ignore or deny the aspects of power, privilege and oppression present in the experiences being lived out in these very real human bodies.
I refuse to be silent while people, under the guise of spiritual consciousness and enlightenment, continue to perpetuate the idea that we, and we alone, are responsible for the unfolding of our lives. It is a polite and violent way of victim-shaming. You are allowed to be affected and impacted by the things that have happened to you, to your body. By violence and silencing. By the very real systems of oppression that many live under. By patriarchy and misogyny. By white supremacy and the criminalization of the poor.
We are not all having the same experience.
You are allowed to be affected. Without judgment or shaming.
And whatever you have experienced and known in all its terrifyingly painful and beautifully intimate particulars, I believe you." - Isabel Abbott
9. When a dream becomes a reality and moves into an action plan. First CLOVES Family Camp coming this summer.
10. Planning for extended family Disney trip.